Tea Stories: Indulge-tea 🫖🦋🐿️☕👶🏽🕊️

Tea Stories: Indulge-tea 🫖🦋🐿️☕👶🏽🕊️

66:1 'O Prophet! Why dost thou forbid that which God has made lawful unto thee, seeking the good pleasure of thy wives? And God is Forgiving, Merciful.'

Recently I have come across this in my work. It's not made up. This stuff really happens. 😵‍💫

Men reporting this and women reporting this -

- Don't spend too much time with her family and friends.

- Don't compliment her too much.

- Let her know that your 'actual' (they mean biological) family are more important than her and that they will come first and are the priority.

- Consult with your own parents over her regarding important family decisions.

- Don't let her make any decisions regarding finances even if she is earning.

- If she is earning it's her choice but she still needs to manage the house, the meals and the kids.

- Ensure she knows that the head of the household is the man and the final decision rests with him.

- Make sure she knows that she must stay quiet if anyone from your family is rude to her or asks for things she is not comfortable with.

- Do not help her with housework or childcare and if you do then make sure she knows about it. Especially nappy changing which is a direct attack on ones 'manhood'.

- In fact weaponised incompetence is best so she just doesn't ask you again.

- If she is moaning just let her, if it gets out of hand shut her down with light to moderate verbal aggression.

- If she doesn't look good, smell good or dress up for you then let her know your standards and if she still doesn't do it, it's ok to look at/flirt with, other women.

- If she starts to get any confidence or wants too much freedom then lock her down with manual labour or tell her that he social circle are bad people and she is not allowed to spend time with them.

The list goes on. 🙁 This is honestly just some of it. 🫣

Obviously this does not apply to all men, but for those of who it does, why do you refuse to seek the good pleasure of your wives? It is lawful to love her, to respect her, to comfort her, accept her, see her for who she is and appreciate her. It is encouraged. It is recommended. 🙏🏼

66:11 'And God sets forth as an example for those who believe the wife of Pharoah when she said, "My Lord, build for me a house near unto Thee in the Garden, deliver me from Pharaoh and his deeds, and deliver me from the wrongdoing people,' 🥺

Perhaps today we can try to be good to each other. Say something appreciative. Be more open to give and receive love. Maybe we can notice what the other needs, and see if we can help. Maybe a cuddle that is a little more loving a little longer. Perhaps just listening with curiosity. ❤️

There are lots of beautiful ways to love someone, we can really listen to what they like and enjoy. We can rise above the power struggle and just take a step towards a better future. Love is like magic, the more you give the more you get. 🌟✨⭐